Three relationship tricks that will restore peace in your relationship

If you feel anxious or worried in your relationship, like worrying if he will withdraw or if you’ve done something wrong…

Maybe you're overthinking what he said or what you said or maybe you just feel generally tense…

Here are three relationship hacks that will immediately get you on your path to a more peaceful and softer feeling!

#1. Learn to tolerate imperfection and chaos. 

Many women are unaware of our own expectations around things. We are unaware that we want things in a special way, and that we want others to behave a special way.

We get easily frustrated when things “go wrong” according to our definition of what is right or wrong.

We want it to be kind of perfect, whatever that may mean to us.

But life can only be perfectly imperfect. Learning to tolerate that chaos, and imperfection is a HUGE feminine energy skill (Chaos IS in fact feminine energy).

This is especially important if you have or are planning to have kids. With kids, there will ALWAYS be a certain amount of chaos and unpredictability.

And as you learn to tolerate chaos, imperfection and NOT having things your way, you'll start to see that not only will you have more peace of mind - you will also have more time for yourself.

This will be a blessing to you and your family…because that will give room for more feelings of satisfaction - within YOU.

#2. Fall in Love with yourself and whatever is going on in this moment.

Even if there is chaos around you, even if you feel sad, disappointed or angry - as long as there isn’t an immediate urgency, can you fall in love with whatever is going on?

Feminine energy is to allow, to receive and to FEEL. 

When you ask yourself in the moment, in every moment: 

“How am I feeling” and “Can I fall in love with this” 

You will find that your experience of YOURSELF will soften.

It is quite magical what these two simple questions can do to a moment of chaos.

Your man will see you differently. (and your kids too).

Asking yourself these two questions immediately brings feminine energy into the situation.

And often, this is just what is needed to restore the relationship peace, and balance!

Because the biggest reason why our relationship is off, is often just because there is too much masculine energy.

Lots of fighting? Masculine energy.

Defensiveness? Masculine energy.

State of urgency? Masculine energy.

And so on….

#3. Trust your man and that he wants to make you happy.

This is a relationship balm….trust…not always easy, but lets start easy.

Has your man ever done ANYTHING that he said he would? Or anything you can really honestly appreciate?

Then seek it out. Seek out those moments, those things where he actually IS following through, where he actually IS a good dad, where he actually IS reliable.

If you are married and living together this can be as simple as appreciating him for actually going to work every day to provide for you…

Honestly, if you are living together and he provides at least something for you….How often do you appreciate him for it?

Do you say, “thank you for working so hard, thank you for providing for us”?

And how often do you say “I trust you”?

Saying “I trust you” can mean the world to a man. That is WAY beyond saying “I love you”.

So check in with yourself…what can you take with you from these three tips and start right away?

Let me know how this all lands for you <3

xx Eva