What To DO When He's Got Problems

So your man’s got problems and that’s why he can’t call you, take you out, talk to you or have sex with you.

He’s depressed. He’s overwhelmed with work. His career is not going well.

And as he’s telling you all these things…it’s easy to fall into the trap of wanting to “fix him.”

We know how he could do better. We know how he could solve his problems. And if he only listened to us, he’d feel so much better!

And then WE would feel better too! Because then he’d meet our needs…

Then we’d have that emotional connection & intimacy that is SO important for us women.

Now his moody & withdrawn & has no emotional capacity 🥺

What’s happening is he feels like he’s failing.

And he feels inadequate.

When we try to “fix” him he just feels even worse. Even less like a man because we take on the role of the masculine fixer & doer…

When he sees us go into “fixing mode” he loses trust that he can provide for & protect us or even make us happy.

The way through this - is to let him be him, with all his problems and let him deal with his stuff without trying to change him.

Instead focus on You!

How can you meet your own needs, especially your emotional needs - for the time being?

Not forever - that is not what I’m asking, but for a little time. Because the truth is - you help him the best by staying HIGH VALUE & at the same time standing by his side.

You don’t help him by mothering him. You don’t help him by becoming his therapist. And you certainly don’t help him by threatening to leave him if he doesn’t shape up…

Staying “high value” means you consciously work on your own vibe, to feel good, to have faith in him and in the process & trusting that YOU will be ok. That everything will be ok.

You’re on a journey travelling side by side with your man. You’re not in charge of his journey…only yours…

Allowing ourselves to feel good when we believe things could be or must be different is hard.

I know this triggers a lot of emotions in you. Maybe fear & sadness & frustration…

That’s why I have developed the “emotional processing worksheet”.

This is a way to help you deal with your emotions - especially those triggered by what your man is doing or not doing - so that you can stay High Value!

So that you can stay Confidently Feminine - feeling sensual, feeling good, feeling like a Goddess…even when your man has got little or no capacity to give to you.

When you learn how to process your own emotions in this feminine energy way - it will help you draw him closer again. You actually multiply your chances that he will open up to you, and that you can help him solve his problems - just by being YOU.

If you’re in this place right now - where you can sense something is going on with your man - click the link here to download my Emotional Processing Worksheet.